So I read a friends post that was about being snubed by people you knew in High School. She had someone contact her and then delete her comments off their blog. Well my friend Lulu* has very good self esteem and doesn't need others approval to realize she is a wonderful person, so she had a good laugh with her huasband about it and forgot about it. A few weeks later Lulu was talking with a freind who met someone she(lulu's friend) new in high school at the gym and went up to say hi and was "snubbed". The other girl was standoffish and not very responsive to her. Well that made Lulu upset and so she wrote about how high school is over and people should get over themselves.
Now I must say that I agree totally with my friend that high school is over and any hurt, pride, feelings of superiority should be stuffed in the wastebasket because by now most if not all of us are different people then we were in high school. Then I started thinking about what I would do if I met someone I had known in high school, how would I react. (warning this might become a poor me post at any moment though I will try hard not to let it be that way. Just know you have been warned) I think I might just come of as being snobby and standoffish. I would probably flash back to what my relationship with said person was like and then think about how I look. Vain I know but when I meet someone I haven't seen in a long time I want to make sure I look my best. Unfortunatly it seems that you meet old aquitences when you are not looking your best. I have met a few and I have either been sick or have not gotten ready for the day. I honestly have tought about not becoming pregnant until after my ten year reunion because I don't want them to see me fat and swollen. Then I thought about my cousins wedding this past summer. There were several guy friends there that I had not seen since High school. Could I go up to any of them and say a cheerful "Hi. How are you doing it is soo good to see you." No. So what did I do. I hid by my husband and tried to get into long conversations with relatives so I wouldn't have to notice any of them. I admit the reason was I was embarressed. There were a couple that back in the day had crushes on me and I did not treat them very nicely. I felt guilty and to avoid that feeling I decided to ignore them and the feeling of guilt. I know that is not the best way to deal with those types of feelings. I am sure they would have been nice and friendly (thats the type of poeple they are) but I couldn't get past my own short commings and be the person I really wanted to be. Any way I don't know if this makes any since but when I told Brian I had nothing to write about he told me to just start typing what ever pops into my head and that I feel I need to get out.
*names have been changed to protect the innocent. Lulu if you read this I love you and your friend was most likely being snubbed.
2 comments:
snap aubrey! i hope that regardless of your current outfit or physical condition you would come running and i mean full sprint running to me! and then there would be this huge collision because i would come running to you as well! but you are right there are times that i want to look my "best" because honestly we feel good about ourselves when we feel like we look good. As I've ran into people here and there from high school the reactions have been different present conditions playing a big role on it. If I was at the gym working out and extremely focused on losing all traces of baby fat before my 10 year reunion i very well may have accidentally snubbed someone as well. Woops super long comment. Sorry. Just wanted to know that you totally stuck a chord with me.
I know how you feel! This was a great post. I think I would avoid certain people too, just for the simple fact that I don't have good memories of them(didn't feel like they were nice or all that friendly back in H.S, so why would they be any different now?)But the fact is, they really might be! Barb Burke(Beck, now) and I had a conversation about this. People were being really rude about one of her friends, and Barb said, "I just hate that no one allows for the fact that people grow and change." I agree with that. I'm certainly not the same person who went to Emery High, so why am I acting like everyone else will have failed to acheive ANY personal growth in the last 10 years?! It's nuts! I don't know if I'll go to our 10 year reunion...eek! It gives me anxiety like you wouldn't believe. I guess we'll see.
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